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Faith: Life isn't fair

My daughters have a keen sense of justice. Any time I do something special for one of them, the others immediately demand that I do the same special thing for them too.

My daughters have a keen sense of justice. Any time I do something special for one of them, the others immediately demand that I do the same special thing for them too.

For instance, if I allow one girl to stay up a little bit past her bedtime, the other girls boycott going to bed claiming that they should also be allowed to stay up past their bedtime. They protest, "Why does _______ get to stay up late? I want to stay up late too. It's not fair!"

To which I usually respond, drawing from the great wisdom of countless parents all over the world, "Life isn't fair. Go to bed."

Life isn't fair. If you still believe that life is fair, I'm guessing that you haven't lived long enough to have your hopeful optimism crushed by the real world. Just give it time. You'll eventually come to agree with my sage parenting decree.

My wife and I just commemorated the one-year anniversary of the death of our daughter Maria. What a terrible anniversary. It doesn't seem fair. Why did she die? How could God allow this to happen? Why wasn't her body able to fight off a common virus? Why was she not allowed to grow old, to learn, to mature, to fall in love, to marry, to have children and grandchildren, to live a full and good life?

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I have no answers to these questions. Life isn't fair.

But I also know that life isn't fair in the opposite sense. Why was I born in a time and place where I have been given an over-abundance of blessings and opportunities? Why have I been given an amazing family, a wonderful wife, five precious daughters (four of whom we continue to raise and cherish)? Why have I been given so much more than I really need?

I have received so many good things in this life, and I don't deserve any of them. All of these good things are signs of God's grace. If life is unfair in all of the heartache and brokenness, it is even more unfair in the unmerited goodness we are given.

Life isn't fair, and I'm learning to accept both the tragedy and the goodness, the sorrow and the joy.

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