As I See It: Motherhood
There are many important people in our society — presidents, chief executive officers, lawmakers, law enforcement personnel, clergy, doctors, nurses, public safety officers and so on.
The list is certainly much longer than these few categories.
But they all pale in comparison when measuring their individual and collective value in our culture and society to the necessity and value of our mothers. While in the natural sense of reproduction both fathers and mothers have an equal role in beginning life, the mother is the one who carries the child from conception until birth.
Then, while in the womb, the baby is nourished and grows. The baby knows the mother’s voice above all others. The baby senses the heartbeats that keep both of them alive and experiences the mother’s joys and sorrows …and sometimes the impacts of her food choices.
Having witnessed the birth of my children and one grandchild, I have seen the pains of nine months, of labor and of delivery erased in mere seconds as the baby is placed on the mother’s chest.
I have experienced the bond of mother and children as I grew up with my siblings. I have witnessed that bond between my wife and our children. It is stronger than steel and as necessary as oxygen.
I don’t know if it is genetic or innate, but I know it’s there.
Secular progressives have offered numerous studies to try to convince us that children who spend countless hours in day care while their mother works are as normal and well-founded as those with the stay-at-home mothers. Every one of those studies is flawed for any number of reasons — small sample size and not following children for many years — but in nearly all cases, the sponsors of the studies have a deep, vested interest in an outcome that proves their assertion.
Could the major source of much of the bullying in nearly every school and children’s social milieu be the bullies’ simple lack of connection with their mothers at the basic family level? Or maybe it takes a village to raise a child because parents have abandoned or abrogated their parenting responsibilities.
The government has inserted itself into the parent–child relationship to the point that parents who actually discipline their children risk jail time. The parents lose effectiveness and the children (and society) ultimately suffer.
For a number of years, feminists and other secular progressive groups have tried to tell us that motherhood is a virtual form of slavery. Enough men and women have eagerly gulped the Kool-Aid so that some actually believe it and spread the manure of misinformation.
And now that more women are opting to be stay-at-home mothers, they are being ridiculed by feminists, talking heads in the media and many others who would themselves bully dedicated mothers for acting in what they believe is their own and their children’s best interests.
I can foresee the day in my lifetime when someone will seriously challenge the celebration of Mother’s Day. After all, it’s insensitive to women who cannot conceive. It’s primarily focused on heterosexual couples and has so much other similar baggage.
Several cities in the country and now Minneapolis and Red Wing have decided to give Christopher Columbus the boot, in favor of Indigenous People and Chief Red Wing, respectively. No one recognizes Chris as the first to discover “America” any more.
But we cannot deny his role as an Italian explorer funded by Queen Isabella and Spain who made a number of major voyages to this hemisphere. It seems to me that we ought not just dump traditions because they do not suit us.
If we are going to understand our place in history, we certainly ought not rewrite the history of our predecessors based on today’s prejudices and a jaundiced view of the past.
Without mothers, none of us would even be here. Without mothers who nurture and provide a loving, supportive environment for their children, our society and culture would immeasurably poorer — monetarily and otherwise.
Motherhood is one of the highest callings for women. It doesn’t serve any positive goal to demean or cheapen it with misguided criticism and misplaced bullying by those who do not recognize its value to all of us.
Well, that’s the way I see it.